The first step to success is accepting the fact that failure is a part of life. You will fail, and you will learn from your failures. You should not let your failures define who you are.
When we mourn our losses, we are not able to move on with our lives. We keep thinking about what has happened and how it could have been different if we had done something differently.
It's also important to remember that without failure, there can be no success!
We all experience loss from time to time. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the loss of your job, or even just the loss of your favorite pair of jeans from last year that you can’t find in any stores—it happens to everyone. The ways in which we choose to deal with those losses can be very different though. Some people mourn and are unable to move forward in their lives, while others quickly bounce back and are able to continue pursuing their goals and dreams even after experiencing some devastating change in their lives.
Why there’s no need to mourn
There’s no need to mourn the loss because success is not achieved by mourning the loss. Instead, success is achieved by taking action and moving forward. By mourn the loss, you’re essentially wallowing in self-pity and holding yourself back from achieving success. Yes, it’s important to feel your emotions and process what happened, but dwelling on the negative will only hinder your progress. So if you want to be successful, let go of what’s holding you back and take action towards your goals. You'll eventually move past whatever you're grieving. The goal isn't success; the goal is survival. Grief can lead to depression, substance abuse or even suicide which can lead to death. As long as you are alive, there's hope for success. Successful people learn how to quickly move past their sadness and disappointments so they can continue building on their success.
How doesn’t it help?
Mourning the loss will not bring back what you have lost. It will not change the past. It will not make the present or future any better. In fact, it will do just the opposite. When we mourn our losses, we are dwelling on them and living in the past. By living in the past and letting it rule our lives, we are missing out on opportunities that are happening now!
What does bring success?
Success comes from continuing to try, even when you fail. It comes from learning from your mistakes and using that knowledge to improve. Success comes from having resilience in the face of setbacks and not giving up. Success comes from being creative and thinking outside the box. Success comes from hard work and determination. Finally, success comes from never giving up on yourself.
Example 1 – Rita Ora
Rita Ora is a British singer, songwriter, and actress. She rose to prominence in 2012 with the release of her debut studio album, Ora, which debuted at number one in the United Kingdom. The album's lead single, Hot Right Now, peaked at number one in several countries and made Ora the first artist to have a number-one single in the UK before releasing a studio album. Despite its commercial success, Ora was met with mixed reviews from music critics. Her second studio album, Phoenix (2018), received positive reviews but generated fewer sales than her previous work.
The singles she released for this album failed to chart as highly as those on her previous albums.
Ora has been criticised by the media for an apparently more sexually explicit image and for using an autotune effect on some songs which many listeners found unpleasant.
Ora denies this claim stating that she has always used autotune and that she will never change who she is or what genre of music she sings because it would not be authentic or genuine to herself or her fans who love everything about her sound as it is now.
Example 2 – Michael Jordan
Michael Jordan is one of the most successful basketball players of all time. He’s also well known for his failures. In fact, he once said, I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that’s why I’ve been successful. Success is not achieved by mourning the loss. It's achieved by learning from it, moving on and being able to say I tried. When you feel down and out, remember that success is not achieved by mourning the loss.
Life should be enjoyed and celebrated
Life is too short to spend dwelling on the negative. Instead, we should focus on enjoying and celebrating the good moments. Here are five reasons why life should be enjoyed and celebrated 1) To enjoy things that bring joy and happiness into our lives, no matter how big or small they may seem; 2) To make a better tomorrow by looking forward to what’s ahead of us; 3) To give thanks for all the blessings in our lives because everything happens for a reason; 4) To appreciate people in our lives because they all make an impact; 5) And lastly, it will help us become better people.
Conclusion
Mourning the loss is not the key to success. You cannot be successful if you keep dwelling on what you have lost. You need to move on and focus on what you can do now. This doesn’t mean that you forget about the past, but you can’t let it control your present or future. Learn from your mistakes and use them as motivation to become successful. Let go of your losses and focus on what you can gain. If you look back and think, what could I have done differently? then those thoughts will take up too much space in your head. Instead, ask yourself What should I do now? or What does this experience teach me?
If you want to mourn for a loved one who has passed away, then make sure to also celebrate their life! Focus on the happy memories that you had with them instead of only remembering the bad times.
